Loving Others as We Love Ourselves

I was thinking this evening about the commandment to love others as we love ourselves (Matthew 22:39).  I know that I have many challenging personality quirks and bad habits, but I am pretty okay with them.  furthermore, I expect others to be okay with them.  In fact, if someone takes exception to one of my idiosyncrasies, I get fairly indignant.  However, that door does not always swing both ways.  What would it look  like if I were as patient with someone else as I am with me?  If I truly loved my neighbor as myself, I think that I would see him or her in a much better light.  I would probably focus more on his or her good points than obsessing over little rough spots.